I think we are all afraid of a little change. . . so let’s talk about it.
I’m moving off to college in the fall. And well, let’s just say I’ve been feeling all the feels recently.
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I‘ve never been great at dealing with change. It’s probably safe to say I subtly reject it at times. It’s not that I don’t crave a change of pace – or scenery, for that matter. I just like the peace a reliably reality brings.
We’ve all felt it.
The best friend slipping away, a beloved family member passing on, an impending move. And it never seems to get easier. I think a lot of our inclinations to avoid change are heightened by a sense of urgency to adapt.
How long should I be grieving? Is it silly that I am still troubled by this? When am I supposed to let go and move on?
Admittedly, I place a ton of pressure on myself – including the way I respond to changes. I think I speak for the crowd when I say it’s not fun to feel vulnerable and unsure. And when we do, we look for the quickest route back to normalcy and security.
So here’s my challenge.
Worry less, experience more.
Easier said than done. I included a poem by Instagram poet R.M. Drake at the start of this ramble because the idea of change as a “journey” really spoke to me. Like most great journeys, your path is not about the time it takes you to get from point A to point B, it’s about hiccups in-between, the lessons learned and the endless possibility of hope. . . of change. For all my Hannah Montana girls out there, I think we might know a song by-heart that speaks to this.
Embrace without the need to erase.
I have had to say goodbye to many things this year, and I know I have a few painful “see you later-s” on the horizon. A farewell is often just part of taking a new path, but it doesn’t mean we have to forget or abandon that leg of our journey. What I mean to say is: learn to thrive in your new normal, but hold on tightly to the people, experiences and memories that shaped who you are. A book’s next chapter doesn’t abandon the developing plot – and neither should we.
Slow down.
Hooray if it takes only a few days to adapt, but when it takes months (or years), so be it. I’ve said this before, but we really can’t all be go-with-the-flow people. Think about how boring this world would be if we were? We need a few type A folk among us to add some tension to this place! Right??! That’s what I’ll continue telling myself anyway. . .
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So Here’s to the dreamers and doers. keep pushing your boundaries and finding peace in new realities.
I’m not sure if this post was helpful or a total waste of your time, but it’s something I needed to hear. We’ll get back to fashion in the next post, but for now. . . I hope you become more than what you expected.
xoXoxo, zo